The How To : Self Improvement

Life coaching is a conversation. Life coaching is a set of tools. Life coaching shows the How To of Self Improvement. I believe everyone should have access to these tools. Then they have the ability to have these conversations with themselves or another, using the tools to become the best they can. Using the Power of U.

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Become Your Own Life Coach

Life Coaching is a recipe with only a few ingredients. It is a magical dish. The ingredients are :

The G.R.O.W Model “GROW” being the mnemonic that defines a framework for analysis. This can be prefixed with a “T” becoming a “TGROW” model. The GROW model was devised by John Whitmore and can be found in his book “Coaching for Performance” The acronym TGROW is as follows:

  • T is for TOPIC – this is the general problem-space a person wants to explore through coaching. Such as social life, career, quitting a habit or just a general sense of dissatisfaction, with many topics to work on.
  • G is for GOAL – to turn a problem statement into a positive desired outcome, then to embody this into a goal. The goal should be as real and specific as possible, and ideally will be S.M.A.R.T (specific, measurable, action-orientated, realistic & time-specific)
  • R is for REALITY – to explore the problem-space’ as defined by the Topic and Goal, and other aspects of your life to gain a fact-based & current understanding of how things really are, now.
  • O is for OPTIONS – to find a set of options that are available to you, which may move you closer to your goal.
  • W is for WILL – from the list of options, select those that you will commit to doing.

The GROW model is just a general framework, which cannot always be operated strictly in the order as listed here, but each element should be visited at least once.

Over time as reality meets theory & as insights arrive, goals can be revised, slightly or radically, with even the Topic being replaced.

Personal Growth Self Improvement

Life is Learning. Life is Change. Life is Challenge.

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You need to establish what your reality is today, then clearly define what  your aims and intentions are for the future.

Produce a plan of action, that you can follow with confidence. In other words sort out your priorities in life, set up some goals and achieve them. Much of the work is about building up your self belief, bringing out your talents, some of which will be underused or hidden.

Your Wheel of Life

I tried to put a template in but have not worked out how to do this yet – so I will explain and hope you can follow.

Draw a large circle, Divide it into eight (8) sections, then draw 9 circles inside the large circle, each one slightly smaller. Across the center line on each circle starting from the smallest, number the circles 1 to 10.

Label each section of the Wheel from the Life Parts listed below. Then using the scale 1 to 10 indicate where you feel you are in your life/work. One (1) being low – Ten (10) being high.

  • Family/relationships
  • Career/Work
  • Health/Fitness
  • Personal Growth
  • Money/Finances
  • Physical Environment
  • Fun/Joy
  • Romance

Now connect the dots, or colour each section to the line you feel you are at. What is the shape of your wheel? Wheel of Life How to Self Improvement

Would this Wheel give you a smooth or rough ride in Life?

Personal Development Goals

To get to your personal development goals, here is your next task.

Creating your Future Self ….. Your Vision

Answer the following questions as honestly and as fully as you can.

  1. What do you really, really, really want?
  2. What do you see your future self looking like?
  3. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  4. What is your passion?
  5. Where do you see yourself in – 1 year – 5 years – 10 years?
  6. Which possible self do you want to avoid?
  7. What do you have in place to make sure all of this happens?

Creating Your Vision

What do you really, really, really want – reflect on all parts of your life and work. Revisit your Wheel of life

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Write what you want from Life ….

Write what you want from Work……

Complete the following activity –

A) Visualize Not always easy, try to get a picture in your head, your thoughts of what your life/career would look like.

  • What would you be doing?
  • Where would you be working?
  • Where would you be living?
  • What would you be wearing?
  • What would your life be like when you successfully complete this goal?

B) Now, Write it all down. Writing it out makes it more real to you. Take it out of your head and put it down on paper.

  • What does this life/career look like?
  • Describe what you would be doing at this work, where you would be living.
  • What would your life be like when you successfully complete this goal?

C) Tell someone you trust about your vision, your idea, your plan as this creates some accountability. Ask them to check on you to see how you are doing. It creates a buddy system.

D) Memorize it Make it Yours!

You have to believe that you are going to reach this life/career goal so memorize what you have written. Get it into your subconscious, make a vision board with pictures. You are more likely to begin to behave as if you are there or are on your way if you have a visual goal in your subconscious. Every day tell yourself you are the best, describe your new life to yourself, your buddy. Make it Yours!

Good Luck making a vision board of  your personal development goals.





2 thoughts on “The How To : Self Improvement”

  1. Incredible article!
    I’m making the wheel of life and, to be honest, I don’t like where I am… But still, I’m making progress and that’s what count, right?

    1. Hi Jenny, It is good to do the wheel of life, then you can see where you are and make a plan to make progress. And that is all that counts!!!! Good luck!

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