Here we are in Week Two.
Ready to learn how to reframe negative thoughts, continue to learn how to improve yourself and your life, day by day, week by week?
When you think of a big goal or dream that you want to achieve, it’s natural to think of all of the obstacles that will come your way.
Do you always ask yourself ‘What is the negative ?” Then what often happens to us, is we allow these obstacles to become so big in our minds that it stops us from moving forward. Don’t let this be you. What you practice you become.
Keep filling in your daily Check list, write One positive thing you noticed today… and write What you are looking forward to tomorrow
At the end of this week, on Day 15 it will be your first check in Day.
Day 8 How to Reframe Negative Thoughts
Get together with some family and or friends and lets have playtime today, using some positive reframing techniques.
We are going to play “Y. M. C.A.” ( see you are smiling already!)
Get up and Dance!!!
While dancing, one of you must call out something that would be thought of as negative. What is the negative, it’s the “I’m not good enough” thoughts”, the rest of you have to come up with a way to reframe what was said to be seen as positive – example “I am always thinking about food” – the reframe – “wow, you are an expert, you could host a talk show” -“At least you can think”
You decide how you will be affected by events. You do not have to be a victim of circumstances! You can choose to give more attention to one aspect of a situation than others.
And that is Reframing! It’s the art of choosing what to give the greatest significance to in any situation.
The purpose of reframing is not to change the subject but rather shift the persons feeling about the issue/problem.
In reframing you choose what an event means to you. When things go wrong you search for what is good about the situation and give that most attention. You look for how you can use the situation rather than be a victim of it! It’s as simple as that.
Take the daily commute as an example:
- when I lived and worked in Capetown, we knew we were going to sit in traffic if we were not out the door and on the highway by 6:15am, it was going to take 2 hours to commute 45km. How did we use the situation instead of fretting and fuming about traffic? We decided to enjoy the forced idleness to study a language, would pack a picnic breakfast, which ever of us that was not driving got to read the newspaper aloud and feed the driver. Found shapes in the clouds. It was’t long until we began to enjoy our daily commute.
- Think of something you are a little unhappy about in your life.
- Come up with at least three ways this could be seen as a good thing.
Be outrageous, silly, creative, the purpose of this exercise is not to convince yourself to be happy about something you are not, but to recognize and increase your capacity to find the positive in any situation.
Day 9 What is the Negative
Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.
Negativity affects us & everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life.
The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive.
The most basic way to create positivism in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you, let someone go in front of you at the store, ask someone how their day was, ask if you can help someone. Helping others will give you the opportunity to feel positive and shake off the negativity.
You never know people might just appreciate you in the process.
Happiness is a personal choice, made repeatedly in moments throughout the day.
Day 10 Change your Mind
Are you constantly looking around to see what others are doing, receiving, succeeding in?
How does this make you feel? Are you happy for them or do you feel a little bitter? They have all the luck. Maybe you resent them for their success?
Would it surprise you if I tell you how you feel about what others have, can be a block to you being successful.
Here is the thing – It is difficult to become something you do not like or resent!
Your mind is what you feed it and if you are constantly and consistently complaining about others success, your mind will do whatever it can to not let you become one of them…….
Change starts from in you. If you want to become more positive, change how you word your thoughts, a stream of negative self talk will quickly erode your positive life intention.
Changing your self-talk is powerful. To help you adopt the positive mindset. Your exercise today is –
Whenever you hear or see someone doing well, think of something nice to say, instead of cursing them for being successful.
Bless their success. Doing this often will soon tune your mind to more positive thoughts and a change of mind.
Day 11 Approve : Approved : Approval
APPROVE – to speak or think favorably of; pronounce or consider agreeable or good; judge favorably
Look into the mirror. Really look into the mirror, What do you see?
Do you just use the mirror to check how you look going out, putting on make up, doing your hair, shaving?
Do you see you in the mirror?
Do you look at you in the mirror and say to the you in the mirror “I love you”, “I approve of you”?
Have you ever done this?
Do you ever stop and give yourself approval?
How can you love and be nice to others, if or when you do not do this for yourself?
Giving yourself approval does not mean you won’t change, it just means you approve of you now and while you are making changes to you,
This exercise will take some time to get used to doing. As you become more aware of you and approve and love you, you will begin to see changes in yourself and notice the wonderful person you are.
Day 12 Judgment Day
Human beings are prone to judgment and evaluate situations and each other daily.
We call it our survival mechanism — something we do to avoid danger and prevent harm from happening to us.
However, too much judgment can be a negative thing. We all have a stream of thoughts going on in our heads all day long, if we are not careful, we can get stuck inside our own minds. This can wreak havoc on our mind and prevent us from leading the lives that we truly deserve
Take note of your thoughts and the things you say. Be aware when you are being judgmental, and ask yourself why you feel this way. Are your thoughts actually coming from reality, or are they coming from a place of fear and insecurity?
Once you notice yourself being judgmental, you can take action to reverse this self-destructive behavior.
Try to say at least 10 positive things about yourself and the people around you every day.
When you make an effort to find the good in people, you are training your mind to become compassionate & caring. You are creating a positive energy that will benefit yourself & everyone around you.
Day 13 What You Practice You Become
How do you think you will be different when you have “Mastered Yourself”?
Will you be happier? Have more energy? Feel better about yourself?
All of this is possible, but they become more likely if you begin to practice them, before you have Mastered Yourself.
Some ideas to practice change your life could be –
- don’t completely change your breakfast, add a piece of fruit or take away your toast.
- Don’t go to the gym, go for a walk for 5 to 10 minutes.
- Leave work an hour earlier than usual.
- Read 5 pages of positive stuff a day.
- Say a kind word to someone having a rough day.
Here are some simple rules In order to begin practicing. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Just start. Stop judging and beating yourself up if it isn’t perfect. Remember that you’re doing is to change is more than most of the population.
Want to be happy and filled with positive energy?
Then practice, practice, practice, because why? Because practice makes perfect
Day 14 Visualize – See yourself …
Visualization can be applied to any area of your life
Most athletes practice running the race in their mind, before the big day, others see the play, the fight, the game :
Rather than making terrible misfortunes the barriers in your mind and dwelling on everything that could happen to hold you back, envision yourself victorious like Boxing legend Muhammad Ali. Long before an actual fight he was always seeing himself victorious.
II you can’t picture yourself achieving a goal, chances are you won’t.
The more visual you can get, the better it will work for you. Start thinking of your personal goals in life.
Spend about 10 to 15 minutes picturing yourself achieving each one. Get as detailed as possible.
Picture what you will do once your goal is reached. How amazing does it feel? How will this change the course of your life? Remember, the little details increase the likelihood of the big picture.
Get into the habit of putting a positive vision into your everyday life. Visualize yourself succeeding, achieving every goal.
Day 15 Your First Check In
Wow! for the last two weeks you have been making changes, interrupting your old patterns of thinking and building the foundations for a whole new way of relating to life, your emotions, in fact everything about you.
By the time you finish this journey, it will be as difficult to go back to the old way you thought, as it will be easy and natural to live in a way that really works for you,
Using the picture of the Wheel of life from the post The How To : Self Improvement, make a new Wheel of Life following the directions. Mark where you see yourself on the lines from 1 to 10 in each section. After your first two weeks of how to improve yourself and your life. Where are you now on Your Wheel Of Life? Compare this to where you started?