Goal setting and Vision Boards are what we use to create the magic, the magic believing in yourself if you can do that you can make anything happen.
We do need to make a special vision board and use time management for goal setting. Write down our goals, speak about them to make the magic happen. We can have vision boards for health, vision boards for business, in fact any aspect of our life. They can be specific or general.
The Magic believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.
Imagine what your perfect future life will be like, if that is what you want, put it onto your vision board.
Maybe it’s to become debt free, give up smoking, lose weight, travel, have an amazing holiday overseas.
Work out what it is you want to set as a Goal, think about how you will achieve this goal and add pictures to your Vision board.
If you believe you can change and or have these things, you are already going in the right direction.
It is time to turn those dreams into reality.
I don’t know how I am going to do this, but I am going to do it!
Get yourself a large piece of card, or a cork board, in fact you can use anything that inspires you as your base, I use the painters card from paint shop that you use when trying out colors, its cheap and easy to hang on the wall with blue tack.
Find pictures, photos, quotes, sayings, make your own lists up, it is a bit like scrap booking. Gather all your materials together and start placing them on your board. The board doesn’t have to be a piece of art work, it is your personal journey board and will change as you cross off your list or achievements.
When your Vision Board is set out you can begin to set up your goals to achieve each dream on your board.
What is Goal setting and Why is it Important?
You will need to write down your goals and speak them out loud. This helps you work out what the goal is to be and the steps needed to achieve the goal. If it is pay off a debt – write I will pay off my debt of $2000, giving a definite amount, if saving for a trip, the amount of money needed, $4800 for a trip to Europe.
You can have as many goals as you want
Write each of your goals in 2 or 3 sentences
Write exactly what needs to be achieved.
then work backwards to put in the steps required to get the result.
Give each goal a start date.
Give each goal a completion date.
Why are these goals important?
This is your reality check, often we have goals we desire, but are not willing to put the effort in to accomplish. So do these goals you have listed and put on your vision board really matter to you?
Why does it matter to you?
How will achieving the goal affect your life?
Now it is time to get S.M.A.R.T.
The S.M.A.R.T. Checklist.
This is a checklist used in business and coaching to check each goal is well-defined, will be achievable and give something tangible to work towards, to accomplish.
Is the goal clearly written?
Does the goal answer the questions of how many, how much and/or how often?
Can you achieve the goal by the target date? Do you have the resources needed to achieve the goal? Are the results expected realistic?
Does the goal make a difference to your life, or an improvement in your life?
Does the goal state a clear and specific date?
There are a few important things to remember so you accomplish your goals.
A specific start and completion date is important for each goal. When you do not put specific dates to a goal you are not going to complete it. As it is open-ended, therefore doomed to fail.
There needs to be steps for reaching your goal laid out. This makes you think logically about what the goal entails and helps you break it down into smaller and easier parts that need to be done leading up to the completion.
Many people fail in their goals because they don’t take the time to think of what problems they may encounter. Every goal has a few obstacles that can send you off track. Listing those potential problems, issues and complications helps keeps them fresh in your mind so you can avoid any issues.
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How To Improve Yourself and Your Life – Week Three
How to relax your Mind and Body
Wow! here we are in Week three already.
Our key focus this week will be on how to relax your mind and body from stress and what is the difference between conscious and subconscious mind.
What is your wheel of life looking like as we start this third week of learning how to improve yourself and your life, day by day.
Is it becoming an easier ride yet?
Keep filling in your Daily Success checklists
Day 16 Learn to relax your Mind and Body
Today take a little time to relax and do a complete mind and body scan.
Close your eyes and scan from head to toe, how does each part of you feel? Are there any bits that feel not quite happy? Any part you cannot pick up a sense of with your eyes closed? How in tune are you with what is happening in the wonderful machine called you?
Repeat this exercise two or three times during the day, making an effort to notice at least one new thing about your body each time. As you progress through the day it will become easier to stay aware of what is happening with your mind, body and soul when you are working, resting, playing, eating.
Getting in touch with you.
Day 17 Breathe
Did you know you can go on a hunger strike for 90 days or more without dying? But your body cannot survive 5 minutes without oxygen. Did you know that going for a walk gives an immediate dose of oxygen for your brain?
When you give your mind and body the oxygen it needs, by doing a bit of conscious breathing, this will support and is one of the ways to improve emotional health, and affect our mindsets and perspectives.
Here is a simple exercise, a conscious breathing exercise, to ensure you are giving your body what it really needs to keep that wonderful machine called you going at optimal everything….
Breathe in for the count of five
Hold that breath for a count of twenty, while you imagine pumping that oxygen through every cell giving each the nourishment it needs
Exhale, until you feel empty, hold empty for as long as you can
Breathe in again, letting it return to normal breathing.
Repeat as many times as you feel you need to
Day 18 Listen
It’s easy to get caught up in the continuous cycle of work, sleep, and more work. After a while, your body screams in protest and demands you pay attention to its needs…….
SO, How is your imagination?
Can you imagine that your body could talk to you? What would your body be saying to you?
Would it be thanking you for how loving you treat it?
Today as you go about your life stop for a few minutes every now and again and ask your body this question
* What can I do to take better care of you at this moment?”
Listen! Your body and mind deserve some rest. Take a few minutes a day to make a plan to find small ways to take care of yourself.
Day 19 Nutrition
Our intuition reminds us to slow down, listen, and pay attention to the messages and signs our bodies continuously deliver about which foods are best for us in any given moment.
Sometimes the remedy lies in what we take in, and sometimes upon what we leave out.
The question is, how do we know what to eat or drink and what not to? There is that small voice within each of us that knows the answer to our question. It’s the voice of our intuitive selves, the part of us that is innately connected to our deepest truth and always attuned to what we need in body, mind & soul.
Look at your diet, then rather than feeding your feelings, become aware and listen to the messages. You can change your attitude and behavior, learn to control your food cravings, practice some self-love and your dietary habits will become healthier.
Were you aware, the following are common limiting beliefs and negative internal messages related to eating certain foods?
Crunchy foods: Anger causes trouble. If someone is angry with me, they don’t love me.
Salty foods: Being different causes rejection. Don’t take risks. It’s not safe to take risks.
High-gluten or wheat products: . I can’t rely on anyone but myself for love or comfort.
Sugar: It’s not okay to have fun. I don’t deserve to be joyful.
Dairy (milk, ice cream, or cheese): No one will ever love me the way I really am. Love is conditional.
Fatty foods:. I don’t deserve anything good. I am unworthy of love.
every food we eat has a spiritual and energetic effect on the body, mind and spirit. becoming aware of this fact and working with it consciously is the foundation of spiritual nutrition. CYNDI DALE
Day 20 Taste of Tea
When you take time to make yourself a soothing cup of herbal tea, you are allowing yourself to relax your body and mind. You soften your thoughts and begin to hear the voice of your intuition.
The Art of Spiritual Tea Making
In our current convenience-focused age, many just grab a tea bag and pop it into a cup of hot water. This instant tea is really just flavored water. If you want to gain all the spiritual benefits that a relaxing herbal tea has to offer, you need to take some time in preparing it.
Tea is best made in a closed teapot or use a cup with a small saucer placed on top to serve as a lid. When you make tea this way, you allow the beautiful aromatic qualities to recirculate back into the liquid. You know that uplifting fragrance emanating from herbal teas? Well, that represents most of the spiritually healing herbal oils floating off into the atmosphere. If you brew it in a teapot or cup with a lid, the steam condenses back into the tea.
For most herbal teas and for maximum spiritual benefit to be had, you’ll want to brew it for at least five minutes in boiling water. You can allow it to brew longer and get an even more potent brew. A general rule is one teaspoon of herb per cup of water, plus one extra for the teapot. So if your teapot holds two cups of water, you would add three teaspoons of herb.
Day 21 What is the difference between Conscious and Subconscious Mind
The following list is borrowed from Yvonne Oswald’s book, Every Word Has Power, detailing features of the conscious mind.
The conscious mind:
1. Is aware of what it perceives.
2. Contacts reality through the five senses.
3. Gathers and sorts information.
4. Communicates to the Divine through the subconscious.
5. Thinks deductively.
6. Makes choices and judgments.
7. Reviews information and draws conclusions.
8. Makes generalizations.
9. Likes to analyze and categorize.
10. Requests information from the subconscious.
The conscious mind is an incredible thinking machine. It just doesn’t stop.
The best description of the mind’s activity is written by Eckhart Tolle in A New Earth: “Thinking isn’t something you do; thinking is something that happens to you.” Many of these thoughts are unfocused noise and chatter. Mind chatter can range from mildly annoying to downright debilitating. There are numerous self-help books out there that encourage us to train ourselves to think positively. However, due to the sheer volume of thought we have, our control over the human mind and our mental chatter is fairly limited.
Simply recognizing mental chatter and the effect it has on your life is the first step in learning to dissipate its power. If the chatter is excessively noisy, there is likely a strong underlying emotional charge generating it from the subconscious mind.
The following list is borrowed from Yvonne Oswald’s book, Every Word Has Power, detailing features of the subconscious.
The subconscious mind:
1. Operates the physical body.
2. Has a direct connection with the Divine.
3. Remembers everything.
4. Stores emotions in the physical body.
5. Maintains genealogical instincts.
6. Creates and maintains the least effort (repeating patterns).
7. Uses metaphor, imagery, and symbols.
8. Takes direction from the conscious mind.
9. Accepts information literally and personally.
10. Does not process negative commands.
In addition to those features listed above, the subconscious mind also holds our perceptions, subconscious beliefs of who we think we are and how we think the world operates.
In other words, whoever we think we are as people and however we think the world operates quietly lives under the conscious mind in the subconscious. Our perceptions may be wonderful or painful.
The subconscious mind does not evaluate or judge these perceptions; it simply accepts them as truth. Furthermore, the job of the subconscious mind is to play these perceptions out in the circumstances of our lives. Creating our perceptions is what the subconscious mind is designed to do.
Whoever you think you are as person and however you think the world operates will be reflected back to you in the events of your life.
Day 22 Review and Renew
You are now three weeks into your journey of success to your new life.
Its tie to reflect on how far you have come n this short space of time, and look forward to where you are heading.
Ready to learn how to reframe negative thoughts, continue to learn how to improve yourself and your life, day by day, week by week?
When you think of a big goal or dream that you want to achieve, it’s natural to think of all of the obstacles that will come your way.
Do you always ask yourself ‘What is the negative ?” Then what often happens to us, is we allow these obstacles to become so big in our minds that it stops us from moving forward. Don’t let this be you. What you practice you become.
Keep filling in your daily Check list, write One positive thing you noticed today… and write What you are looking forward to tomorrow
At the end of this week, on Day 15 it will be your first check in Day.
Day 8 How to Reframe Negative Thoughts
Get together with some family and or friends and lets have playtime today, using some positive reframing techniques.
We are going to play “Y. M. C.A.” ( see you are smiling already!)
Get up and Dance!!!
While dancing, one of you must call out something that would be thought of as negative. What is the negative, it’s the “I’m not good enough” thoughts”, the rest of you have to come up with a way to reframe what was said to be seen as positive – example “I am always thinking about food” – the reframe – “wow, you are an expert, you could host a talk show” -“At least you can think”
You decide how you will be affected by events. You do not have to be a victim of circumstances! You can choose to give more attention to one aspect of a situation than others.
And that is Reframing! It’s the art of choosing what to give the greatest significance to in any situation.
The purpose of reframing is not to change the subject but rather shift the persons feeling about the issue/problem.
In reframing you choose what an event means to you. When things go wrong you search for what is good about the situation and give that most attention. You look for how you can use the situation rather than be a victim of it! It’s as simple as that.
Take the daily commute as an example:
when I lived and worked in Capetown, we knew we were going to sit in traffic if we were not out the door and on the highway by 6:15am, it was going to take 2 hours to commute 45km. How did we use the situation instead of fretting and fuming about traffic? We decided to enjoy the forced idleness to study a language, would pack a picnic breakfast, which ever of us that was not driving got to read the newspaper aloud and feed the driver. Found shapes in the clouds. It was’t long until we began to enjoy our daily commute.
Think of something you are a little unhappy about in your life.
Come up with at least three ways this could be seen as a good thing.
Be outrageous, silly, creative, the purpose of this exercise is not to convince yourself to be happy about something you are not, but to recognize and increase your capacity to find the positive in any situation.
Day 9 What is the Negative
Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.
Negativity affects us & everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life.
The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive.
The most basic way to create positivism in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you, let someone go in front of you at the store, ask someone how their day was, ask if you can help someone. Helping others will give you the opportunity to feel positive and shake off the negativity.
You never know people might just appreciate you in the process.
Happiness is a personal choice, made repeatedly in moments throughout the day.
Day 10 Change your Mind
Are you constantly looking around to see what others are doing, receiving, succeeding in?
How does this make you feel? Are you happy for them or do you feel a little bitter? They have all the luck. Maybe you resent them for their success?
Would it surprise you if I tell you how you feel about what others have, can be a block to you being successful.
Here is the thing – It is difficult to become something you do not like or resent!
Your mind is what you feed it and if you are constantly and consistently complaining about others success, your mind will do whatever it can to not let you become one of them…….
Change starts from in you. If you want to become more positive, change how you word your thoughts, a stream of negative self talk will quickly erode your positive life intention.
Changing your self-talk is powerful. To help you adopt the positive mindset. Your exercise today is –
Whenever you hear or see someone doing well, think of something nice to say, instead of cursing them for being successful.
Bless their success. Doing this often will soon tune your mind to more positive thoughts and a change of mind.
Day 11 Approve : Approved : Approval
APPROVE – to speak or think favorably of; pronounce or consider agreeable or good; judge favorably
Look into the mirror. Really look into the mirror, What do you see?
Do you just use the mirror to check how you look going out, putting on make up, doing your hair, shaving?
Do you see you in the mirror?
Do you look at you in the mirror and say to the you in the mirror “I love you”, “I approve of you”?
Have you ever done this?
Do you ever stop and give yourself approval?
How can you love and be nice to others, if or when you do not do this for yourself?
Giving yourself approval does not mean you won’t change, it just means you approve of you now and while you are making changes to you,
This exercise will take some time to get used to doing. As you become more aware of you and approve and love you, you will begin to see changes in yourself and notice the wonderful person you are.
Day 12 Judgment Day
Human beings are prone to judgment and evaluate situations and each other daily.
We call it our survival mechanism — something we do to avoid danger and prevent harm from happening to us.
However, too much judgment can be a negative thing. We all have a stream of thoughts going on in our heads all day long, if we are not careful, we can get stuck inside our own minds. This can wreak havoc on our mind and prevent us from leading the lives that we truly deserve
Take note of your thoughts and the things you say. Be aware when you are being judgmental, and ask yourself why you feel this way. Are your thoughts actually coming from reality, or are they coming from a place of fear and insecurity?
Once you notice yourself being judgmental, you can take action to reverse this self-destructive behavior.
Try to say at least 10 positive things about yourself and the people around you every day.
When you make an effort to find the good in people, you are training your mind to become compassionate & caring. You are creating a positive energy that will benefit yourself & everyone around you.
Day 13 What You Practice You Become
How do you think you will be different when you have “Mastered Yourself”?
Will you be happier? Have more energy? Feel better about yourself?
All of this is possible, but they become more likely if you begin to practice them, before you have Mastered Yourself.
Some ideas to practice change your life could be –
don’t completely change your breakfast, add a piece of fruit or take away your toast.
Don’t go to the gym, go for a walk for 5 to 10 minutes.
Leave work an hour earlier than usual.
Read 5 pages of positive stuff a day.
Say a kind word to someone having a rough day.
Here are some simple rules In order to begin practicing. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Just start. Stop judging and beating yourself up if it isn’t perfect. Remember that you’re doing is to change is more than most of the population.
Want to be happy and filled with positive energy?
Then practice, practice, practice, because why? Because practice makes perfect
Day 14 Visualize – See yourself …
Visualization can be applied to any area of your life
Most athletes practice running the race in their mind, before the big day, others see the play, the fight, the game :
Rather than making terrible misfortunes the barriers in your mind and dwelling on everything that could happen to hold you back, envision yourself victorious like Boxing legend Muhammad Ali. Long before an actual fight he was always seeing himself victorious.
II you can’t picture yourself achieving a goal, chances are you won’t.
The more visual you can get, the better it will work for you. Start thinking of your personal goals in life.
Spend about 10 to 15 minutes picturing yourself achieving each one. Get as detailed as possible.
Picture what you will do once your goal is reached. How amazing does it feel? How will this change the course of your life? Remember, the little details increase the likelihood of the big picture.
Get into the habit of putting a positive vision into your everyday life. Visualize yourself succeeding, achieving every goal.
Day 15 Your First Check In
Wow! for the last two weeks you have been making changes, interrupting your old patterns of thinking and building the foundations for a whole new way of relating to life, your emotions, in fact everything about you.
By the time you finish this journey, it will be as difficult to go back to the old way you thought, as it will be easy and natural to live in a way that really works for you,
Using the picture of the Wheel of life from the post The How To : Self Improvement, make a new Wheel of Life following the directions. Mark where you see yourself on the lines from 1 to 10 in each section. After your first two weeks of how to improve yourself and your life. Where are you now on Your Wheel Of Life? Compare this to where you started?
There are as many coaching ideas as there are Life Coaches, who can show you different ways to self-improvement online.
They can teach you to say I can do that, to any section of your life.
I am going to tell you about one you can use for each individual goal or inspiration you would like to achieve.
Here we go, the I CAN DO explained
The how of I CAN DO to self improvement.
This way of reaching a successful outcome of a goal can be used on all sections of your Wheel of Life – health, family, friends, wealth, spiritual, career, leisure, relationships, lack of personal time.
Example I want to be doing more exercise.
Let’s put the model into practice
What is your reason for wanting to do more exercise?
What is your current level of doing exercise?
Exactly how much exercise do you want to be doing?
What are the successful ways of increasing the amount of exercise that you have experienced or heard about?
By what date do you want to have achieved an increase in your level of exercise?
How will you know when you have succeeded?
Once you have answered all the questions above, write out what you believe you ave agreed to do.
You have agreed with yourself to set a plan in place to make a change to some aspect of your life.
You have investigated why you want to do this.
You have looked at what you are currently doing.
You have agreed to what you want to be doing.
You have looked at as many ways as possible to make this happen.
You have agreed to a date this will be completed by.
You have agreed to an outcome.
Call to action
I would be really interested in hearing how you set out your plan, using the I – CAN – DO model and how successful you were.
Tell me how you said I can do this!
What challenges you faced and how you overcame them.
Leave your comments below and have an awesome day!
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below or contact me by email and I will be more than happy to help you out.
Are you ready to do this? Ready to commit to at least 90 days? Ready to learn how to improve yourself and your life, day by day, week by week?
Your Success Calender
Make up a calendar ten (10) blocks across and nine (9) blocks down.
Number 1 to 10 across the first row, 11 to 20 next row and so on until you reach 90.
Shade in the following Days – 15, 30, 45,60, 75 and 90
Your Success Checklist
Using your Wheel of life sections below, write one goal you want to achieve beside each section.
At Number 1, It may be to spend an hour each day doing something together as a family.
Number 2 relates to a career or work something.
Number 3 lose weight, gain weight, join a gym etc
Place a tick box next to each goal and a space to make a comment of what you did. You will need 90 of these – one for each day. Mark each one as Day 1, Day2, and so on to Day 90.
Then under this write – ONE POSITIVE THING I NOTICED TODAY….. and leave a space to fill something in here
Then under this write – WHAT I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO TOMORROW……and leave a space to fill something in here.
As you tick off each of the eight and make your comments every day, cross that day off your calendar.
Day 1 Begin with the end in mind
Today it begins, this is the first day of what will be an entirely new experience for you. Where will it end?
Take a moment, you are now going to close your eyes & imagine that it is 90 days from today. Travel into the future until you are looking at a future happier changed you. When you are ready step into the future so you can see. Hear and feel what the future you, is seeing, hearing & feeling.
The more you let yourself get into the joyful feeling, the easier you will be able to return to this visualization again & again during the 90 days. Each time you return to this visual you are programming your mind for success.
Day 2 A picture of success
Today take some time and find a picture of something or someone that inspires you. Place it somewhere you will see it every day. Whenever you need an extra shot of determination or courage, look at your inspirational picture to remind you of “success”
As we look at a picture of someone reaching their goal, our own resolve and will to win is strengthened.
Day 3 Do something you have been putting off
You have been procrastinating about…..
Cleaning out the clothes in your cupboard,
Clearing out the garage,
Getting rid of the boxes of stuff you have been carting around forever.
Clean the oven
These are the jobs we hate…..
Day 4 Accept yourself
By focusing on our future goals, it can seem we are rejecting who we are in the present. This is not so. Take some time to stand in front of a mirror and send love and approval to yourself. Acceptance does not mean you do not want to change something, it just means you are willing to accept where you are now is where you are today.
Day 5 The best year of your life
Chances are if you are using your daily sheets, you have already decided its time for a change. You may not have realized that you are more than likely thinking too small…….
Here is anther visualization for you to practice – Close your eyes and imagine it is a year from now & you have had the best year of your life. What must have happened for that to be true? Be very specific about each area of your wheel of life.
It is important to be very clear, Take your time and imagine your life has become outrageously better, go for it imagine BIG! Then during the day spend time thinking about how fantastic your life can be, do this every couple of hours to get the feelings and thoughts ingrained in your mind.
Day 6 An attitude of gratitude
We can get so caught up in our own worries and concerns, that we forget to see all the good things we have in our lives.
This evening before we go to bed, we are going to spend some time writing down three things we are grateful for in our lives.
You will have the day to think about the good things happening around you & to you. Today you will be aware and watching to see what you can write.
Start your sentences with Today I am grateful for ……….
Day 7 Review and Renew
This is the seventh day, today take some time and reflect on how far you have come, re-focus on where you are heading.
Today it is time to review and renew…. write your answers
The best things that happened this week were:
My biggest challenges this week were:
I did these things for the first time:
What I learned was:
My three top priorities for the week ahead are:
Week 1 Completed
How are you feeling after all of your achievements of the last seven days? Ready for the next seven days?
I will be following up with the next seven days in a new post, so watch for it.
Life coaching is a conversation. Life coaching is a set of tools. Life coaching shows the How To of Self Improvement. I believe everyone should have access to these tools. Then they have the ability to have these conversations with themselves or another, using the tools to become the best they can. Using the Power of U.
Become Your Own Life Coach
Life Coaching is a recipe with only a few ingredients. It is a magical dish. The ingredients are :
The G.R.O.W Model “GROW” being the mnemonic that defines a framework for analysis. This can be prefixed with a “T” becoming a “TGROW” model. The GROW model was devised by John Whitmore and can be found in his book “Coaching for Performance” The acronym TGROW is as follows:
T is for TOPIC – this is the general problem-space a person wants to explore through coaching. Such as social life, career, quitting a habit or just a general sense of dissatisfaction, with many topics to work on.
G is for GOAL – to turn a problem statement into a positive desired outcome, then to embody this into a goal. The goal should be as real and specific as possible, and ideally will be S.M.A.R.T (specific, measurable, action-orientated, realistic & time-specific)
R is for REALITY – to explore the problem-space’ as defined by the Topic and Goal, and other aspects of your life to gain a fact-based & current understanding of how things really are, now.
O is for OPTIONS – to find a set of options that are available to you, which may move you closer to your goal.
W is for WILL – from the list of options, select those that you will commit to doing.
The GROW model is just a general framework, which cannot always be operated strictly in the order as listed here, but each element should be visited at least once.
Over time as reality meets theory & as insights arrive, goals can be revised, slightly or radically, with even the Topic being replaced.
Personal Growth Self Improvement
Life is Learning. Life is Change. Life is Challenge.
You need to establish what your reality is today, then clearly define what your aims and intentions are for the future.
Produce a plan of action, that you can follow with confidence. In other words sort out your priorities in life, set up some goals and achieve them. Much of the work is about building up your self belief, bringing out your talents, some of which will be underused or hidden.
Your Wheel of Life
I tried to put a template in but have not worked out how to do this yet – so I will explain and hope you can follow.
Draw a large circle, Divide it into eight (8) sections, then draw 9 circles inside the large circle, each one slightly smaller. Across the center line on each circle starting from the smallest, number the circles 1 to 10.
Label each section of the Wheel from the Life Parts listed below. Then using the scale 1 to 10 indicate where you feel you are in your life/work. One (1) being low – Ten (10) being high.
Now connect the dots, or colour each section to the line you feel you are at. What is the shape of your wheel?
Would this Wheel give you a smooth or rough ride in Life?
Personal Development Goals
To get to your personal development goals, here is your next task.
Creating your Future Self ….. Your Vision
Answer the following questions as honestly and as fully as you can.
What do you really, really, really want?
What do you see your future self looking like?
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
What is your passion?
Where do you see yourself in – 1 year – 5 years – 10 years?
Which possible self do you want to avoid?
What do you have in place to make sure all of this happens?
Creating Your Vision
What do you really, really, really want – reflect on all parts of your life and work. Revisit your Wheel of life
Write what you want from Life ….
Write what you want from Work……
Complete the following activity –
A) Visualize Not always easy, try to get a picture in your head, your thoughts of what your life/career would look like.
What would you be doing?
Where would you be working?
Where would you be living?
What would you be wearing?
What would your life be like when you successfully complete this goal?
B) Now, Write it all down. Writing it out makes it more real to you. Take it out of your head and put it down on paper.
What does this life/career look like?
Describe what you would be doing at this work, where you would be living.
What would your life be like when you successfully complete this goal?
C) Tell someone you trust about your vision, your idea, your plan as this creates some accountability. Ask them to check on you to see how you are doing. It creates a buddy system.
D) Memorize it Make it Yours!
You have to believe that you are going to reach this life/career goal so memorize what you have written. Get it into your subconscious, make a vision board with pictures. You are more likely to begin to behave as if you are there or are on your way if you have a visual goal in your subconscious. Every day tell yourself you are the best, describe your new life to yourself, your buddy. Make it Yours!
Good Luck making a vision board of your personal development goals.
Everyone has heard of the 80 / 20 rule or ‘The Pareto Principle”.
The Pareto Principle so named after the founder, the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto (1848-1923).
Pareto explained how only 20% of his pea pods produced 80% of his garden peas. Then around 1895, Pareto used this principle to reveal an uneven and predictable distribution of wealth. He noted people in society appeared to divide into, (his words) the “vital few” or top 20% in terms of money & influence and the “trivial many” or the bottom 80%. This still holds true today.
This became Pereto’s Distribution, Pareto’s Law or the 80/20 Principle, was first published in his seminal work, in 1897, “Cours d’economie politique”
A Seminal work, may describe a study that changes our understanding of a topic, or describes and illustrates a new and highly useful research method. He put forth that his principle could be applied everywhere.
Understanding the 80 / 20 rule
We can take the 80 / 20 rule and apply it to any situation. If we can understand the principle we can learn to prioritize our tasks, our days, our ideas, our goals, our expectations.
The numbers don’t have to be “80%” and “20%” exactly, and these values are not significant, they could just as easily be 60% and 10%. It is a rough guide about typical distributions and the fact that there is a considerable disproportion.
The key point of the 80 / 20 rule is that most things in life (effort, reward, output) are not distributed evenly – some contribute more than others.
The 80 / 20 Rule Explained
We could start with this comment, ” 80% of what we do is really rather pointless” because 20% or any effort will give us 80% or the result we are looking for……
I work five days a week, therefore based on 80 / 20 only one of these days is actually productive, so I decided to track my work and see if this was correct. It quite blew me away to discover that, yes, most of my productivity is centered around one day, the other days are a lead up and a close down.
I started to do a bit of research, into the 80 / 20 rule and found some interesting comparisons, here are a few
80% of output comes from 20%of input
80% of profit comes from 20% of product & customers
80% of all consequences come from only 20% of causes
How can I apply this 80 / 20 rule?
Are you ready to examine yourself, your issue, your frustrations? If so, ask yourself……
Which of your current efforts are giving you an 80% result of your desired outcomes and happiness?
Which of your current efforts are causing you 80% of your problems and unhappiness?
These are not guesswork questions, you have to sit down and write your answers honestly. Write an overview of how you really, actually spend your time.
Record everything you do, then analyze each step of each task listed and ask yourself the two questions above in the context of the tasks you are analyzing. You should find this a very interesting exercise.
My 80 / 20 rule example
Here is my analogy of the 80/20 rule ,which is, it’s not about what happens during your day, it’s all about how you deal with what happens each day.
Or 80% of what happens during the day you have no control over
and the 20% is how you deal with the 80%.
Or 80% of all consequences come from only 20% of causes
This is the Scenario I like to use as an explanation:-
– the family are sitting around the table having breakfast, mum,
dad, Mary & Tommy. Tommy reaches across the table and spills his glass of
milk – what happens next?
Mum jumps up, yells at Tommy, grabs a cloth starts to soak up
the milk, all the while berating Tommy. Mary sneaks away from the table,
Dad tells mum to stop shouting at the child, mum turns on dad, Tommy is crying.
Everyone leaves the house in the morning in bad moods, upset and unhappy……
……you can complete the rest of this scenario, kids late for school, dad in minor accident driving angry…..
Mum jumps up, quickly clears up the spill, tells Tommy it’s OK sweetheart, it’s all sorted. Disaster is averted, mess is cleaned up quickly. Everyone finishes breakfast and leaves for school and work happy.
The 80/20 rule my way!
HOW DO YOU USE THE 80/20 Rule in your life?
Remember – 80 percent of the issues we have with others are our own internal battles. 20 percent are actual relationship issues.
Quote of the day!
“Man is not disturbed by events, but by the view he takes of the event!” — Epictetus
Feel free to leave a comment below on what you think of the 80 / 20 rule and how you use it or don’t….
Have you thought of how to turn each day into your personal development plan.
It all starts with the 80/20 theory.
it’s not about what happens during your day. It’s all about how you deal with what happens each day.
This is the Scenario I like to use as an explanation:-
– the family are sitting around the table having breakfast, mum, dad, Mary & Tommy. Tommy reaches across the table and spills his glass of milk – what happens next?
Mum jumps up, yells at Tommy, grabs a cloth starts to soak up the milk, all the while berating Tommy. Mary sneaks away from the table, Dad tells mum to stop shouting at the child, mum turns on dad, Tommy is crying. Everyone leaves the house in the morning in bad moods, upset and unhappy…… you can complete the rest of this scenario, kids late for school, dad in minor accident driving angry.
Mum jumps up, quickly clears up the spill, tells Tommy it’s OK sweetheart, it’s all sorted. Everyone finishes breakfast and leaves for school and work happy.
Welcome to my Power of U website, where we focus on Personal Development and Self Improvement, which has been a passion of mine for many years.
Stories from the Power of U
I studied and became a Life Coach to be able to give back and share journeys of self-improvement with my friends.
I saw amazing personal growth in one friend especially, the furthest she had travelled was about 40 km to her parents house from where she lived. With some goal setting and a change in her mindset she is now travelling all over the middle east teaching and has been doing this for five years. It was a huge transformation for her.
Another little story with a big result was Joan, she was rather timid and had no confidence, again with encouragement, she worked through her fears and now spends half a year in the UK doing care work. Has paid off her house, travelled to Italy, France & Germany. She has become a strong vibrant successful person, it is hard to recognize.
I became interested in personal development after coming out of a really bad relationship. I had to learn to function again, so I know what it is like to have lost my self-confidence & wonder how I was going to get out from the hole I had found myself in.
To create great content to help U take back your Power and become the best you can be.
It is going to be an exciting journey.
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